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How to handle bullying

From the school playground to the internet, bullying is a widespread problem that can affect your child’s mental and emotional health. boy-being-bullied

The Western Cape Education Department (WCED) views bullying very seriously and takes constructive steps to address it in schools. Bullying represents an attack on human dignity and shouldn't be tolerated.

School districts will have anti-bullying campaigns during May 2016 to assist schools to develop their own programme on the topic of bullying.

We have to adopt a zero-tolerance approach to bullying if we want to build a caring society based on the values of our Constitution.

What is bullying?

Bullying is when a child or a group of children abuse their power to hurt others. Parents should remember that both the bully and the child being bullied need help.

There are four main types of bullying that you should look out for:

  • Verbal and written. For example, name calling, negative comments, intimidation, and threatening or humiliating SMSes.
  • Physical. For example, bumping, scratching, shouldering, hitting, tripping, biting, rolling eyes or showing suggestive signs.
  • Social or relationships. For example, gossiping (verbal or written), revealing personal information, manipulation of the child with a view to humiliation or exclusion from a group.
  • Cyber bullying. For example, intimidating or harassing a child using a digital platform such as social networks.

What are the signs of bullying?

Bullying can be identified by the following types of behaviour:

  • deliberate aggression,
  • an unbalanced power relationship between the bully and the victim, and
  • the causing of physical pain and/or emotional anxiety.

A bully can be identified by the following behaviours:

  • they are aggressive and get into fights often, and
  • they never take responsibility for their actions.

What are the effects of bullying? child-in-therapy-bullying.jpg

There are many effects of bullying that you can look out for. These include: 

  • faking illnesses to avoid having to attend school,
  • a low self-esteem,
  • social isolation,
  • unexplained bruises and injuries,
  • becomes upset after using the internet or cellphone, and
  • becomes very secretive about online activities.

What are the consequences of bullying?

There are many effects of bullying that you can look out for. They include:

  • absenteeism and a fear of attending school,
  • feelings of inferiority,
  • self-esteem problems,
  • feelings of loneliness,
  • social isolation,
  • emotional problems,
  • communication problems,
  • depression,
  • struggle to achieve academically,
  • some victims commit suicide,
  • rule breaking, anti-social behaviour patterns, and
  • risk of criminal behaviour later.

Prevention of bullying

Once bullying has been identified, it is important to address the situation as soon as possible with the school, where appropriate measures and actions can be discussed and implemented. The Western Cape Education Department (WCED) has provided guidelines to schools on how to deal with bullying. Schools need to deal with bullying in terms of codes of conduct and intervene appropriately to support the victim and to change the behaviour of the culprit.

Districts provide training and support on this issue as part of broader support on disciplinary issues. Teachers can use the following guidelines to prevent bullying:

  • Provide a clear guideline for acceptable behaviour.
  • Create class rules which state that bullying is unacceptable.
  • All learners who are guilty of bullying should be called to account. It will send out a clear message that bullying will not be tolerated.
  • It’s important that the focus shouldn’t be on punishment so much as on the changing of behaviour.

Support to the victim

Support to the victims of bullying is provided through:

  • protecting them from further bullying,
  • helping them to understand the bully's actions. This will enable them not to look for the cause of the bully's behaviour in themselves,
  • involving them in educational games of therapy through which they can give expression to their feelings through drawing, writing, and drama,
  • involving them in a support group consisting of other victims, and
  • linking them with a different group of friends who will act supportively.

Cyber bullyingteenage-girl-being-bullied-cyber-bullying.jpg

If your child has a cellphone, they may be at risk of being cyber bullied. Bullying may occur through social networks, SMSes or emails. You can support your child by using the guidelines provided by South African Police Service (SAPS) listed below:

  • Do not respond. If someone bullies you, remember that your reaction is usually exactly what the bully wants. 
  • Do not retaliate. Responding with similar threats reinforces the bully’s behaviour
  • Save the evidence. Online messages can usually be saved and shown to someone who can help. Save evidence in case the bullying gets worse.
  • Block the bully. Use your social media preference settings or contact the administrator to block an online bully.
  • Reach out for help. Ask a trusted adult for help and support.

Help for bullies

It’s important to remember that the bully often comes from a background where there is insecurity, little parent involvement, and inconsistency in actions of parents.

These learners are often subjected to physical punishment and emotional outbursts. Before formal counselling is necessary, the bully must come to the realisation that  their behaviour is always going to have negative consequences until their behaviour changes.

Helpful questions for the bully:

  • What did you do?
  • Why was it the wrong thing to do?
  • Who did you hurt?
  • What did you want to achieve?
  • What will you do differently next time, without hurting anybody?

The bully must learn the following:

  • To accept responsibility for their own behaviour.
  • To accept responsibility for the consequences of their actions for themselves.
  • To become uncomfortable (my behaviour got me into trouble and I want to avoid it next time).
  • To change their behaviour in order to stay out of trouble.
  • To find other ways of satisfying their needs.
  • To take responsibility for the effect that their actions have had on others.
  • To feel guilty about their actions.
  • To trust others.
  • To build relationships with supportive adults.

Getting help

You don’t need to deal with bullying on your own. Reach out to your loved ones or use the WCED’s Safe Schools hotline, available to teachers, learners and parents, to report abuse. WCED Safe Schools hotline: 0800 45 46 47.

The content on this page was last updated on 7 February 2017